If you have a sexual problem that is interfering with your relationships, day-to-day life or happiness, it’s time to make an appointment with a sex therapist. Just like you would see a doctor for a physical problem, sex therapy can help you get comfortable in your body, communicate more clearly with your partner and overcome obstacles that are keeping you from having the satisfying sex life you deserve.
A typical sex therapy session starts with a rundown of your relationship and sexual history. Although it can be difficult to talk about at first, your therapist will create a safe and non-judgmental environment in which you can express yourself freely. The sex therapist will ask about what has worked and not worked in your relationship, and what you hope to gain from your sessions. You may also be asked about the frequency and types of masturbation you engage in, orgasms you’ve experienced and any sexual dysfunction you may have (such as pain during sex, premature ejaculation, arousal disorders or erection problems).
The sex therapist will then guide you through exercises to increase your sense of self and confidence in your body. This can include sensate focus and touch exercises, as well as communication exercises that encourage clear and open communication. These exercises are tailored to your specific needs, so don’t worry if they feel uncomfortable at first.
Most sex therapists are trained to help couples improve their communication and intimacy, and some also offer individual sessions. It’s important to choose a therapist you trust and feel comfortable with, as it is common for these conversations to be intimate and sensitive.