Many people have a picture of what it might be like to go to sex therapy, formed by movies and tv shows. But the reality can be different to what people might think.
Like other talk therapists, sex therapists are trained in providing support and education to their clients. They are not there to take sides or judge, and sessions are confidential. They also work at the client’s pace, which is why it’s important to choose a sex therapist you feel comfortable with. It’s also important to remember that a sex therapist will ask detailed questions about sex in the past, as well as your current sex life. Snyder says, “Sex therapists often get much more detailed in asking about what happens in bed and in the head than you might expect.”
A sex therapist will be able to help you deal with your concerns about sexual behaviours, but may also refer you to your doctor if there are physiological issues that can’t be managed through therapy alone. This is particularly the case for issues like pelvic pain, a sex drive that’s gone flat or sexual anxiety.
While it’s not necessary to find an accredited sex therapist, Torney says she recommends looking for one who has been accredited by organisations such as SAS or the Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists. You can also ask prospective sex therapists for references from previous clients and try out a session with them to see how they work.